I would like to think that one day we will all be able to say, “I have long since ceased to cherish any spirit of bitterness against [fill in the blank]” and recognize that the measure of forgiveness is not accepting apologies. It is far too tempting to use offenses against us as justification for self-centered behavior. For this, that pain and bitterness becomes a source of power in our relationships. Natural hunger for control easily distorts any view of the detriment caused by harboring offense in heart. Selfishness is selfishness. All justification, excuse, or illusion of deserved retribution aside.. Bitterness becomes a comfort to which we cling; that we learn to cherish. Forgiveness 490 times applies not only to new incidences of wrongdoing, but also to the infinite times that we are reminded of a wound and caught in the throes of resurfaced pain. Each time emotions are flung into upheaval at the mention of a moment, be conscious to remember the infiltrating nature of complete grace and genuine forgiveness.